Mon. Oct 14th, 2019

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Sexclamations: In Ignoring Female Viewers, Pornography Industry is Mistaken

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By ERIN HILL

“Oh! Oh! Ohh!” Take that sound bite and repeat it for at least thirty minutes. Throw in a female or two with extremely long French nails or some other variety of unrealistic, fake nails. Don’t forget to make the first scene a blowjob and the last one a “moneyshot” to the face. The result is usually a stereotypical pornographic movie.

From real life experience, I can tell you that sex will not make you moan and cry “Oh!”  for the entire duration of the act, especially if it lasts for longer than a half hour. Don’t get me wrong—sex feels amazing. But chances are, waking up the neighbors with your cries of bliss will not be a top priority during sex. You can enjoy sex without sounding like a porn star trying to appeal to the camera and all of the horny men that will be watching the video.

Yes, horny men tend to be the primary viewers of porn.  Most porn is directed and made especially for men. Therefore, most porn contains an unrealistic amount of male domination, as illustrated by scenes of women being forced to “deep throat” and appear delighted and joyous when a male ejaculates on their faces. This is unfortunate, because women and curious adolescents tend to also watch porn, albeit irregularly. It is a shame there are not many explicitly sexual media outlets for women.

Similarly, it’s unfortunate that better sex education for adolescents is not easily accessible. Pre-teens should not need to turn to porn websites for information on sex. While it is true that males are more turned on by visual aids than women, I think I speak on the behalf of most women in saying that we appreciate some sort of visual aid, too.

For some women, a magazine cutout of a celebrity with their clothes on is appealing enough. For others, television shows or movies that borderline soft-core porn are enthralling. For those of you who don’t find those media outlets as exciting but also don’t yearn for the stereotypical porn presented at the beginning of this article, I recommend searching for amateur porn. It usually contains more foreplay, passionate kissing and caressing.

Considering that young, genuinely passionate couples create the majority of amateur porn videos, they are more relatable to an experience you have had or are more likely to achieve. Moreover, amateur porn is usually less stereotypical and degrading to both genders. In most amateur porn, neither the male nor the female is perceived as being overly dominant.

Please note that I am not endorsing porn, nor am I condemning it. Always do what you are comfortable with and what is aligned with your beliefs and moral values. If the stereotypical porn described in the beginning of this article floats your boat, then go for it. Just remember- your next real life sexual experience may not mirror the superficial nature of most pornography.

And don’t forget—Feb. 14 through 21 is National Condom Week! Prevent the spread of STDs and avoid unintended pregnancies by always wearing a condom.

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